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The idea for starting a blog came sometime last summer. I was all gung-ho and ready to go and then saw the price and said, “hmm, maybe I’ll wait this out a moment but just work on my free wordpress copy and see how it goes.”
In the meantime, there was an urge pulling on me to write and start a business, so TakhiatheTeacher began to form. No, I don’t make any money yet but I’m sure in due time it will come and that’s a whole separate post for another day! Back to the story at hand, I took a course last year and joined the corresponding group to get updates and community and all of that awesome stuff. In August, they put out a call for content writers. I was excited!!!!!!! I spent days pouring over my audition piece. I wanted it to be perfect. I applied and waited.
The result …. I was selected from hundreds of people to write for Godly Today, an up and coming online Christian Magazine. It covers a multitude of topics, dating, marriage, business, all from the lens of how God wants us to live and what He says about it in the Bible. I was soo excited and upon being selected, made the move full speed ahead with my blog. I mean, how can I write and be published but not have anywhere else to showcase my work!? God is my go to for EVERYTHING and I do mean EVERYTHING!!! My getting selected was Him telling me, I never told you wait. I told you to write.
Fast forward to November of this year, I took a spritual gifts test. I’ve taken one before and my results didn’t reveal anything that I hadn’t known for years. I’m gifted at teaching, wisdom, and knowledge, hence my career path and constant search for degrees and just wanting to know things and then once I know them share that with someone else. This test was different. I normally have a tie between the 3 things I already mentioned and this time there was still a tie. While wisdom held tight at number 1 it was now tied with service. Standing alone at #2, was exhortation. The ability to write about God in such a way that it encourages others with Biblical truth. Huge eye opener!!!!! And that’s when I understood the turn in my blog and all of the opportunities that have been coming to me. I’m still defnitely Takhia the Teacher but there are a multitude of things that I can teach and I’m here for it all.
So I’ve said all of this to say, if you hear God telling you to do something, do it!!!!!! Whatever your it is, is Him activating your gift, even if you don’t feel like it’s time, He will lovingly remind you that your time doesn’t matter, HIS time is infinite and all things are perfect or made perfect in HIS time.
When you get chance, click on over to Godly Today! You can read my work, find some encouragement, become inspired.
Teaching is a calling. It is not your typical 9 to 5. There are many thankless days and nights. You have to take work home. Sometimes you sacrifice other activities just to make sure your lesson, unit, or whatever is just perfect. Whether it’s your first, fifth or 25th year, the call doesn’t change. You just get another year with a different set of faces to work on for the next 180 days. Some days are super dooper easy and awesome and then other days make you want to pull out your hair and question everything you know to be true about yourself and your gift!! On the easy days, teaching is sweet and you are full of the joy that propelled you into this career path to start with. On those hard days though …. I’ll speak for myself and be completely transparent and say on the hard days, I made it a point to outwardly say “This is for the birds. I’m applying to go work for the government and be done with this!!!!!” After I’ve had my tantrum, I sit down and take a moment to remember why I started teaching to start with.
Recently, I had to take my lesson to the whiteboard. Imagine the “horror” the technology teacher with technology woes and no PowerPoint presentation for my computer science class. The computer science teacher is handwriting notes really?? Yes really and you know what?? It was awesome!!!!!!!! And actually quite freeing to be honest. It was something that I didn’t even realize that I’d missed. One of the first exciting things that I realized upon being hired as a teacher was that I finally got a chance to write on the chalkboard! Seriously. I was soooo overjoyed that I got to write on and wash chalkboards and then put up everything for the next day. It gave me a chance to be sure that I was prepared and because I spent so much time writing things just perfectly and making sure I knew my content hands down and without stutter. In the world of PowerPoint, while convenient sometimes I lose that element. I don’t connect the same way with typing as I do with standing in the front of the board with chalk, well now marker in hand (does anybody use chalk anymore??), and writing. Now some of it could be because I like to write in general, hence the blog, but it’s always been something for me to write anything. Notes are my life I have them for everything! (That’s a topic for another day)
I shared my little story to remind you as we’re going along on this journey of teaching, to take some time to go back to your why! Why did you begin this journey? What’s your simple joy? The one thing that catches you from time to time but makes you smile from year to year and makes you feel completely empowered by what you do? Find it, hold on to it, ride the wave of it and when it fades then find a new thing. As long as you can always find your happy moments, the bad moments, even the most horrible ones will never outweigh the positivity that you feel from one small thing. Now, if it does, then maybe it’s time to do some soul searching on a different level. On this day full of hyper children who have already started consuming or anticipating the consumption mass amounts of junk and candy and on tomorrow when you’re dealing with the aftermath of obtaining all of the candy, find a quiet moment to remember your why or your small thing and I promise you, you’ll feel better.
In college I became affectionately known as “the bossy babe with the crab tickets” by one of my very good friends. This was her first impression of me but she soon realized that for all of my perceived bossiness, I was an effective leader. And I wasn’t really that bossy as I was efficient. Recently, someone called me bossy and I was a little offended, mostly because of the context of it. What I have come to realize is that bossiness is sometimes subjective. For people who are unclear, unsure or unequipped to make things happen and make decisions, those of us who can are bossy. Especially when we’re female. If we were men, it’d be ok to be forceful and we’d be considered impactful. But as a girl …. Le sigh.
In thinking about my childhood, I was called bossy my whole life. I can look back now and see where I embraced the negativity of it and I was proud of it. It didn’t bother me to be bossy because I was never bossy without intention. I had a low tolerance level for things being poorly or inefficiently done. As a matter of fact, in my speech and on my application for the position which rendered me as “the bossy babe with the crab tickets,” I announced to a room full of people, yes I am bossy but it’s not the evil just do what I say bossy. It’s the bossy that says we need to follow these steps to get better results. We had an amazing year in that organization and I moved on to higher levels and ultimately to becoming a teacher. All because I was willing to take what society deems to be a negative and flip it to a positive.
That brings me to whole point of writing today. People often times stigmatize little girls early calling them bossy and making it a negative attribute. Instead of calling her bossy, let’s begin to teach her how to use that skill to develop her leadership potential. Her bossiness is confidence unfiltered. She knows her stuff. There is a difference between bossy and rude or having poor manners. So by all means if she is just barking orders at people to get her own way, then address that accordingly. But if in a situation she takes action, comes up with a plan of execution and can give clear direction of how to do that task, that’s not bossiness. That is her leadership potential at it’s beginnings. Take time to teach her about tone, inflection, pitch and how to say things to people. That is a lesson that I’m still learning, but it helps her to realize that she’s not just bossy and evil. She has a gift that she must learn to use properly. We, as in society, teach our girls that they shouldn’t be assertive or confident but the time for that is over. There are alot of bold things happening in the world and if anyone has bothered to pay attention, women are at the helm of a quite a few of them.
We need to let our girls know that it is ok to be smart. It is ok to have an opinion. It is ok to know how to do things. You don’t have to play down your shine for someone else’s. You can all shine together and/or you can help someone else find their shine. Part of why I became a teacher was because through various avenues of life I got really tired of watching incredibly smart girls dumb themselves for the sake of society. I’ve never been to one to go with the grain and when I did, it lead to terrible results. Why? Because I was not being me! In every endeavor that I’ve been myself and used my God-given gifts and talents I have never failed. This is the message I want to impart to future generations of children, (as I tell the same thing to my sons), but especially our girls. It is ok to be the smart girl! Don’t worry about what boys think. In time they will realize that certain things of importance to them at whatever phase really aren’t that important, AND if they never realize that, then those aren’t the boys you want anyway but that’s a blog for another day.
To end it all out, to my girls I say, the next time someone calls you bossy, say ok, can you teach me out to use it. To my parents, teachers, other adults, intead of calling a girl bossy take her to the side and let her know you see a leader in her and help her develop it. I promise it’s a win-win for everybody!!
Last year this time I participated in a Facebook Challenge called Break the Cycle sponsored by the group Married & Young. It turned out to be one of the best things I could have ever chosen to do … correction, one of the best things that I decided to actually LISTEN to God tell me to do. It changed my life leaps and bounds and even when things are far less than perfect, because this challenge connected me back to my faith, I’ve been able to swing it all.
One of the things that joining this challenge did was give me new “family” that I’ve seen grow from last year to this one and it’s been awesome to watch. Before this year’s challenge, one of my new sisters, posted her story and it was soo moving I knew I needed to use my space in the world to share her victory with you. After all, one wins we all win.
Although the challenge is over, her story and her voice should still be heard. After the challenge, we were all compelled to join The One University (separate blog, by Wednesday, I promise they need their own shine!!), to continue the path of transition from those 5 days. So please, enjoy, rejoice and join me in thanking God for His moves in the life of my friend Faith!!
⚠️LONG POST ALERT⚠️
This time last year, in my mind, I participated in this challenge broken beyond repair. But I Pressed On. I was in a toxic relational soul tie, avoiding dealing with being raped 6 months prior, preparing to uproot my life & move back home to Atlanta with my parents, RELUCTANTLY & struggling deeply with depression, suicide ideation & anxiety to say the least. My whole life was in shambles.😭 But I Pressed On.
I remember struggling to do the challenge but not being fully present because of my mental state. But I Pressed On. The warfare was REAL & Satan had an agenda for my life. TO TAKE IT. But God Protected Me. I Pressed On. The challenge continued I finished it & remember feeling a weight lifted for a few days after… Then things got worse.😱
Yes, you read correctly. I did the whole challenge, prayed all the prayers, watched all the teachings & broke many many chains but days later life took a turn for the worse I didn’t expect. You see, this challenge is TRULY life changing & will uproot & destroy strongholds like never before but if YOU don’t decide to STAY FREE after… like the Bible says that 1 demon will go & bring back 7 more even stronger & worse than the 1st.🙅🏾♀️
NOTE: I am NOT trying to deter or scare anyone but I do want to CHALLENGE you beyond this challenge.
For 3 months after, I SUFFERED by my own choice. I had an AMAZING resource, community, support & tool called TOU at my disposal but I did not aggressively & intentionally engage back in the fold until May because I wanted to PLAY the victim instead of BE the VICTOR I was created to be…😒
Fam, Listen, DELIVERANCE, HEALING & FREEDOM IS FOR THE DECIDED. You have to make up your mind to not return to your vomit or regress. You have to Decide to walk out the manifestation of what these 5 days are going to do in your life. Take it from me. YOU ARE WORTH THE INVESTMENT. TOU changed my life because I wanted to change my life & was proactive about it.👊🏾
Once I made up in my mind I was sick & tired of literally being sick defeated &tired in my spirit, soul & body God showed up & showed out. I am now fully healed, FREE & restored in Christ Jesus, in a HEALTHY GODLY relationship with an AMAZING MOG that also happens to be a TOU Alumni & I am walking in my God given calling & assignment as it relates to my purpose in power & authority like never before. The best part though is that this is JUST THE BEGINNING.🤗🙌🏾
Deliverance is the children’s bread & is part of our inheritance our entire time on earth. It is NOT A ONE TIME THING, but it is progressive & that is why I am here, AGAIN.🥊 New levels bring new devils & I am ready to cut ALL their heads off! I have a legacy I am laboring for! It’s time to Make War!⚔
This challenge is only a catalyst. The true long lasting fruit comes AFTER in what YOU DECIDE to do! Choose Wisely!
A Few things I challenge US to do:
✏Take Good Notes during #BTC2019
🙏🏽Stayed Prayed Up & Open
🥊Fight FROM Victory not FOR it.
🚶🏾♂️🚶🏾♀️Get Accountability & Support
Satan is mad that you have even taken this 1st step but that’s alright because scripture tells us, GREATER is He that is in you then he that is in the world!
I’m Rooting For You But I Am Also Praying & Fighting With You! God Is Exalted! The devil Is Defeated! We Have The Victory!🙌🏽🙌🏽
⛓It Is Time For Us To ⛓BREAK ⛓THE ⛓CYCLE!
So clearly Katie Perry was in a relationship with a narcissist, at the very least someone with some sort of emotional disorder. Like most people, I used to sing the song as fun. It’s catchy and it has a nice beat, it’s been in the Chipmunks movie, cool deal right? One day recently, it came to mind and I really paid attention to the words and then thought about the current issues of life. This song describes life with a narcissist. One minute they love you and life is all about you, the next you are the worst thing ever and they are moving on to their next relationship and you, well you’re stuck wondering what in the world, or whatever other colorful word you chose to replace word with, is going on.
As I mentioned in other posts, I’m a newlywed. I should really still be in the honeymoon phase of life but the reality is that I am not. I want to be, but it’s not happening. Fairly early in our new marriage my husband began doing some weird things and nothing I did was ever enough. In any regard, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the home and the children, doing the finances, our “alone” time, nothing was enough. I had no clue what was going on. I thought I was being a really horrible wife. At the time when things started to heighten, I signed up for challenge sponsored by a Facebook group called Married & Young called the Pray for Your Future Spouse Challenge. However, already being married, I participated any way because your spouse is apart of your future. Also around that time, I discovered the Wife Academy, a program sponsored by Jerry and Tanisha Flowers teaching wife-hood from a Biblical view and giving guidance. So I prayed and the more I learned from the Wife Academy, the more it seemed like it wasn’t working, so I kept praying and asked God what was I missing, what am I not seeing? Little by little God began to answer me. I’m a reader and avid YouTube watcher, mostly of various sermons and preachers I like to listen to, one day one popped up by RC Blakes about the narcissist. I’d never thought of this before, I just thought my husband was completely spoiled and irrational. As I listened to the video, I heard way too many similarities to what I was going through. From hearing his video I turned to Psychology Today and began reading, page after page, article after article.
I don’t proclaim to be a specialist, counselor or any of that, (although my next degree path and career move is to become a licensed counselor and doctor), but I do want to help other women become aware of what may be going in their marriages or relationships. Knowledge is power is any situation. There were a few signs that I didn’t know were actually his narcissism showing long before we ever got married and I’m going to list them here. It’s not all inclusive but they’re pretty standard to everything that I’ve read and/or heard.
- They experienced some type of rejection/extreme hardship during childhood. These can include rejection from a parent, incarceration of a parent, a shift in parental roles, (i.e. the father should be the protector of the home but he doesn’t so the mother assumes the role), a history of violence in the family, and the addiction of a parent to alcohol or some other substance.
- Extreme mama’s boys. Now many of us have either experienced them or if we are mothers of boys trying to stop them from becoming one. The reality is that every boy will be a mama’s boy to a degree because they need the nurturing. But I am speaking of extreme instances. So in most wedding ceremonies, there is what I call the “leave to cleave” clause. The man should leave his people, the woman leaves her people and they join. Well in narcissistic men, they keep mom 1st and in most cases she allows it. (The reason is a whole new topic, I’ll share later)
- He talks big with no results. This one would take a while to see. I’m an empath and a planner. If you tell me you want to do something then I will believe the best for you and help you achieve it. They talk the talk, but in some cases, don’t or won’t walk the walk to achievement.
- They are really self-absorbed and when complimented most times don’t say thank you. Everything is about them. They are so great, in their minds, they should be complemented and celebrated all the time. This one is actually exhausting to live with.
- Being with them is like being with a real life Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. Again this is exhausting because you never know who you’re going to get and why. You can do something that you think is a huge help to him or the relationship or the home and the next thing you know a war has broken out. My husband had an all-out break down over a breakfast choice and continued the rant in a counseling session.
The list is not to scare you or have you looking at your mate sideways and it’s not even exhaustive, but if you see any of these things on a regular basis it may be cause for a concern. Within myself, I just started feeling like something is not right. In general, I’m a very confident person, I’m accomplished to a degree, I don’t have poor self-esteem, (matter of fact if you’ve seen Daria, my favorite line “I don’t have poor self-esteem I have little esteem for anybody else!” Yeah that’s me, I’m a work in progress, pray for me). But yet, something just didn’t feel right. I wasn’t balanced. At work, I felt fine, at home, I felt like I was being crushed and stressed out. It was at this time, I knew that I needed help so I sought out a counselor and if you are feeling this way I encourage you to do the same. The “goal” of the narcissist is to crush you into oblivion. You lose yourself and wrap yourself in him so much that you don’t matter to yourself anymore. Never lose yourself for anyone. Even if you aren’t ready to see a counselor, please talk to a friend, relative, a pastor, someone that you can air out your feelings too. And don’t just do it to find validation, do it so that you can begin to rebuild you. You are important, you are worth it, you are needed, you are smart, you are YOU and never let anyone take that from you.
If you want to know more about the signs of narcissism or narcissistic abuse, please visit any of the links below:
This year I, (in no particular order and definitely not bragging) ….
- grew in God
- got married
- moved twice
- experienced lost
- celebrated by children
- found the true definition of sickness & health and richer or poorer at the same time
- found my purpose and the path to achieve/fulfill it
- GREW IN GOD!!!!!!!
The beginning and the ending are the same and it is because of that beginning and ending I was able to do, endure, or celebrate any of the middle. With God all things are possible is more than a refrigerator magnet. It is the mantra of my life, (among others). Without Him, I would fail and be drifting like a ship without a sail. Renewing, rebuilding, restructuring my relationship with God was the best decision I made on January 1, 2018 and carried with me the entire year. I don’t do resolutions but I set goals and outside of being a better mother or teacher, those are standards and daily growth goals, my 2018 command for my life was to relearn God. He is truly my beginning, middle, and ending. In retrospect daily, I can see my own growth. I can see places in my life where I know I have only been able to sustain because of Him. He is how I started 2018, how I will end 2018 and who I will continue with in 2019.
I’ve taken the time to share this with the world because it’s not too late for you to decide to learn Him better. You don’t have to wait until New Year’s start today. I’m not a preacher, licensed or ordained minister, pastor, any of those things. I’m a regular, everyday person who just had the greatest epiphany that without Him guiding and helping me I will fail and I want to encourage you to get to your epiphany. If you don’t know where to start, this is where I become Takhia the Teacher (another thing that He allowed to come forth), and help you. For the month of December, I am reading the book of Luke one chapter a day from now until Christmas Eve. You can start whenever you want. It’s 24 chapters of the life of Jesus, from beginning to end. To help with my studying because let’s face it, we don’t always understand the Bible, especially the King James version, I’ve found a really good guide book with questions that help me unpack what I’m reading. I’ll include them in links here. Begin to study for yourself. Go to church. YouTube messages about what you’re going through, Google what “God says about ….” Begin to tap into Him. Everything starts with a decision and a prayer. Decide to know Him and accept His love and Grace and then pray and He will guide you. Maybe He lead you here to read this! To that end I avail myself, your friendly neighborhood teacher. You have questions, I can find answers and ways to help you. That is what I’m here for.
Whatever your decision, I hope your 2018 finishes strong and that your 2019 begins even stronger!!! Happy Holidays from Takhia the Teacher!!
As promised, some resources to help you get started! Happy Reading and Studying!!
“We made it, we survived. When the enemy came in to take our lives. God lifted a standard to be my protection. No weapon formed, can prosper against us. I made it this far by faith. My future’s brighter than my today. I’m holding on to my praise. I made it! I survived! I’m a survivor!!”
The lyrics are from one of my favorite songs by Bishop Hezekiah Walker. Today is the last day of October. All month long we’ve been celebrating Breast Cancer Survivors it’s a been sea of pink and love and it’s been wonderful. October isn’t just for Breast Cancer awareness, (you ladies are phenomenal and I in no way diminish your fight. I salute you!). There are a group of women who have survived a different sort of cancer. The one of a toxic relationship. They have survived the hands of the one who in some cases vowed to love, honor and protect them. They have survived the hands of the person who claimed to love them above all else. They too are my heros. So today, on this last day of October, I take a moment to honor them and appreciate them – For their honesty, for their transparency, for sharing their struggle, for being brave.
Your stories help others who may not realize that their reality is or has been similar to the one you share. You are not weak. You are more than a conqueror. You are me and I am you. I have a story. I am not weak. I am more than a conqueror. I have survived.
The details I will save for another day. Today, I am here to send encouragement. If you are in a relationship and things just aren’t ok, even if you may not know why or you might not even know what’s happening. I’m going to ask you to trust the still small voice that’s within that is telling you to move, to let go, to do something. Once you hear that voice, act on it. Please seek help. Do not stay in the abuse. Emotional and mental abuse are just as damaging if not more so than physical abuse. While outward bruises heal and can be covered, this is not normal, this is not love. Internal bruises begin to reshape who you are and how you see yourself. Nothing is worth losing yourself. I know you may actually love him and it’s easier said than done. I know you may have children involved. I know you may not feel like you can do it on your own. But I’m here to tell you, you can and you will be ok and can make it on your own. Reach out to a friend, loved, one, pastor. You can even reach out to me! Nope I’m not a counselor, (…yet, coming around ~2023), but I am a great listener and I will gladly objectively hear you out, pray for you and hopefully help you figure out your next steps. Nothing is hopeless or helpless. You are valuable. You are loved. You have help.
To those of you who are not victimized but you may know of a victim, please be there to support and encourage them to get help. Don’t turn a blind a eye. It’s like we teach students about bullying, be an upstander, not a bystander. You are important to the process too. We must all work together to end these tragedies.
For more information and encouragement please visit The National Domestic Violence Hotline. And again, I’m here for you, find me on any of the ways listed below. This is not for likes and followers, this is for your life. Please know that I sincerely care for you.